Do You Spare the Rod More Often?

I wonder if heard the idiom that says, “Spare the rod and spoil the child”. This is because while this was very popular a few years back, it has completely lost its worth in the current period. It actually means that if you do not offer physical punishment to your children when they make mistakes, you are actually spoiling your children.

I would like to ask people who were born in the 20th century and a little later than that? How did your parents react when you made any big mistake? I hope you got a sound thrashing from them or at least some punishment which you can remember even now.

Coming to the present conditions, do you think you can offer the same level of punishment to your children even now? Well, kids, these days are brought up almost like flowers and parents take every care that their kids would not face any issues in their life. And even if the kids make some mistakes, the most they get is oral scolding.

Well, do you think you are spoiling your children by sparing the rod? People would say no because they have seen many cases where children have been committing suicide because their parents scold them. While the previous generations of parents had to garner the courage not to hit their children, nowadays, the parents have to garner the courage to punish their children.

They are of the view that children are so emotional that if we say anything to them even in a slightly high tone, they would lose their cool, get emotional and do something that would make the parents repent forever. So it’s better to let your kids get spoilt; at least they are alive in the matter.

Well, if you are thinking so as a parent, I am sorry but you are not a good parent. Bringing up no kids is better than bringing up a spoilt kid and you will face many issues in the future if your kid is a spoilt one.

And do not wait to punish your kids when they grow up. Start punishing them from a very young age so that they understand that if they do something wrong, they will get punished and nothing could prevent this. And as the kids match the height of their parents, physical punishments must subside and you should rather talk to your kids about what they did instead of punishing them for what they did.